On Finding Miss Right

1. Find a woman who will take good care of you, but will also let herself be taken cared of. Especially in this day and age when even women are focused with their own careers, it would still be nice to find a woman who can find the time to take care of you and your family. A woman basically knows how to nurture and care for others. To know that this won’t be neglected once you are in the relationship is most comforting.
However, she must also let you take care of her. Some women tend to take the nurturing role to the point of being a martyr. Make sure she doesn’t do this because this is potentially damaging not only to her but also to the relationship and, if ever, your family. With men struggling to be true to the role of provider and protector, a woman must let a man do his part. This will further boost a man’s confidence as this shows how the woman is certain that the man he loves is worthy of her vulnerability.

2. Choose a woman who can be independent and is fairly confident. No man needs a clingy creature, sometimes to the point of being an irritating nag, to keep him on a choke hold. A woman who knows her own strengths, uses her head and voices out her opinions is very much attractive. After all, you are looking for a partner in life, and not a baby. You need someone who you will treat as an equal, whom you respect, and in turn, will respect you. She also has to be able to downplay her insecurities and be able to resolve them, by accepting that she is imperfect, but she is a jewel as well. She must know how to stand on her own and be able to be happy and have fun even without you.

3. Make sure that she also intellectually stimulates you and can keep up her end of the conversation. The bimbo image will no longer result to lasting relationships. This keeps you on edge, apart from the attraction you have for each other. Plus you’ll never get bored with a woman who constantly feeds your mind.

4. If a girl can be comfortable around the people around you, whether they be your beer buddies, business partners or your own family, then you will definitely enjoy her company. More importantly, if she wins the thumbs up of friends and family, then you can be sure she can stay with you for a very long time.

5. Whether you take a girl to eat at a hotdog stand or you take her to the fanciest restaurant, if she isn’t bothered about what she eats or where she is but she can act as if she belongs in that place, then congratulations! You have found a girl you will never be ashamed of. She enjoys the simple treats you give her and she can also enjoy an elegant setting, without you having to constantly point out which silverware she has to use. She would also know how to relate to people of different social standing.

6. Find a woman who can trust you (assuming of course that you are worthy of that trust). A woman being jealous every now and then is acceptable, but dealing with constant paranoia? Not good. Just make sure that you will never ever break her trust because you can be sure she will never make you forget it.

7. It is rare to find a woman who truly understands a man: his need for space, constant ego boosts and his pride. So at least, find a woman who would be willing to understand, and would not constantly complain. Not only will this give you less headaches, you will feel less likely to just push each other way to avoid conflict.

8. She accepts you for who you are. And I mean everything about you, including the fact that you can be icky at times. You might smell bad, get a big beer belly, sweat a lot or snore so loudly, she would still stay, love you and still consider you her prince charming.

9. Lastly, she provides motivation and inspiration to you. This alone is an indication that she is Ms. Right. No wonder how cheesy it sounds, with her around, it makes you want to be a better man.

Good and Bad

I'd like to share more about one passage. Actually, all of the words come from a single picture contain a passage about life. I already share some of my thought in different blog. The passage is here.

Right now, I'd like to share some more from my point-of-view. Please feel free to disagree!

Love Deeply and Forgive Quickly
To love someone is quite easy to do. It's not a playboy's love which love someone today than love another the next day. But, it is a deep love in your heart. And I could say that it's not that easy. Love is a two-way relationship which include take and give. To love someone deeply, I believe that it takes time and encouragement to believe that person. This love doesn't mean love between a couple, but any relationship.

Forgive quickly is a really hard thing to do. I believe that I'm also not easy to do that. Even though, I believe that grudge/hate is the spoiler of happiness. In order to be happy, someone should have some great thing, including forgiveness. If you can't forgive someone or, even, yourself, you can't be happy. To forgive quickly have some benefits, such as: you won't dwell a lot in bad situation, always be grateful, etc.

Yeah, to love deeply and forgive quickly is not an easy thing to do. But, I believe that it's one of the requirements to live happily in this world. Try it and I know that you'll become a different person.

Take Chances, Give Everything
People always said that chance won't come twice and the passed chance can't be roll back. So, when a chance come out in front of you, take it and do it whole-heartedly.

If you take a chance but you do it not in your best, I believe that somehow, some other times you will regret what you already did before. You must do it whole-heartedly and give your best in every single thing that you do.

But, somehow, when the chance doesn't come to you, I believe in two things. First, the chance may be still far away from you, so you should be more perservere than ever. Second, it's not the one that you're meaned to, so you must find another thing to believe on.

And Have NO Regrets
Huh.. The most hardest thing to do in this life. Even though, I already try to be more grateful and thankful, but to avoid regrets, it's really a hard thing to do. Everytime, I failed or did badly, I would regret it. I know that it's a very hard thing to do.

If someone said that you never regret about anything that you've been done, please tell me how to do it. I still can't do it. For example, if I answer badly in an interview, I would regret it by thinking why I answered it that way, it should be this way. And so on.

I should take this as my next step, I think.

Life is too Short to be Unhappy
Hm.. do you believe it? Life is short, YES. Life is too Short to be Unhappy, Absolutely TRUE. Life is real short. If you're unhappy, it would be the waste of your happiness. Let me give you some examples.

If you feel sad, than you already lose some good moments in your life. First, you lose the happy time by feeling sad. Then, you also lose time for recovering from the sadness. Then, you lose some more time to recall some good moments in your life to be happy. I believe that for every 1 minute of sadness, you'll need at least 3-5 minutes to be back to happy condition.

So, instead of being sad, I encourage you to say more grace and be thankful. It would help you a lot.

You Have To Take The Good with The Bad
To receive a good thing is really easy. And even, we almost always forget to say thanks/grace for the good time. But, when bad time strucks, we would almost at the same time to say something bad or feel bad, as if the world stops to rotate.

There's NO perfect life in this world. The reason is simple, because human is always hungry. When you get a car, you want a good one. After that, you ask for a cosy one. Then, you look for a limited edition one. And so on. When the expectation doesn't come true, you will think that you're lost.

But, could you think it in different ways that not all of your expectation should come true. Because it would make you humble and not arrogant. Because you're not a God, you just could try your best and the result would be depend on so many other factors.

Smile when You're Sad
Some people think that smile is a hard thing to do. I don't know why.
But, I believe that smile makes earth become more like a world. It's a universal language to spread the happiness. When you see that someone smile at you, I believe that some other person would feel happy and great. So, smile more often.

To smile when you're sad. It's really hard thing to do. Even, it's real hard for me. I don't know why. How can that I smile but deep inside my heart I feel bad. ^^v

But, I believe that every single person in this world have different problems and expectation. You can't simply judge them by their problems. And I believe that every single person in this world should be accompanied and feel love. By simply put a smile in your face, you could heal other's hurt or pain. So, why you don't want to do that?

I'll share more about the rest of the passage in another blog.

So, take your time, be grateful and thankful. Always be happy; don't forget to put on your smile.

Nov 20, 2007 - Patience

Patience. I'm a person who hates to wait. I don't really have that patience also.

But, lately, I learn a lot of new things, including Patience. Is it easy to learn? I don't know. It depends on the person and the personality. I believe in some stage of our life, we need patience more than anything else.

I experience that few times within this year. But, I still can't say that I'm patient. I still learn to be patient. Sometimes, patience works or speaks louder than anything else. We must believe that the best is yet to come.

I believe that each single person in this world have expectation or hope deep inside your heart. When those expectations and hopes don't come true, what will the first thing come out in your mind?

Most of us would think that I am useless; I can't do anything; God doesn't love me; I have a bad karma; etc. Most of us would find any reason that is quite reasonable that could be accepted by your mind. But, would you think in the other way?

Could we think that the God just doesn't want us to have it right now? Or God have another plan for us. Could we think that it may not be my karma? It is still far away from blossoming. Could we think that we are not persevere enough? Could we think that we don't try hard enough?

Actually, I believe that when we see every single thing from a positive side, the world would seem to be better and better. But, I also believe that it's not an easy thing to do.

We need to prepare our heart and mind that we are not perfect; that not every single wish could come true.

Patience and patience. A success that comes in the right time would taste sweeter than ever.

Expectation

Expectation? What is actually an expectation? It's a bit hard to describe. But, the simplest thing that I could say, "expectation is anything that you want or hope."

I'd like to discuss about expectation. I believe that every single person in this world has expectations starting from simple one to a very complex one. A simple expectation could be to have a decent meal or specific meal.

Do you think that all of your expectation would come true? I don't think so. I believe that every single person in this world ever experience a bad situation where your expectation came short and can't be fulfilled.

When you're in a situation where your expectation can't be fulfilled, you feel that you're suck, you feel that you lost, etc. And everything is to make you down. You feel that you're one of the useless person in this world.

So, should we avoid to have any expectation in this world? Would that be possible? I don't think that it is possible. I believe that we need to have an expectation to be alive, to feel great, to feel accomplishment, etc. Without any expectation, your life would be bored, unfulfilled, and unalive.

What should we do toward the expectation? I still suggest that we should try our best, fight our way to fulfil the expectation. And believe that all of your expectation could be fulfilled.

If it is not, then it's you who should sort it out. I don't say that we should surrender and feel bad. But, we should accept it. We could try our best, but it doesn't mean that all of your expectations should be come true.

We must feel grateful in every occasion. Cherish every single moment. Live hardly.

I believe that what matters in this world is how we face the problems; not what are the problems.

Life Is A Gift

Life Is A Gift

Today before you think of saying an unkind word -
Think of someone who can't speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food -
Think of someone who has nothing to eat.

Before you complain about your husband or wife -
Think of someone who's crying out to God for a companion.

Today before you complain about life -
Think of someone who went too early to heaven.

Before you complain about your children -
Think of someone who desires children but they're barren.

Before you argue about your dirty house, someone didn't clean or sweep -
Think of the people who are living in the streets.

Before whining about the distance you drive -
Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

And when you are tired and complain about your job -
Think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job.

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another -
Remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker.

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down -
Put a smile on your face and thank God you're alive and still around.

Life is a gift, Live it, Enjoy it, Celebrate it, AND fulfill it.

Kearifan Emas

Seorang pemuda mendatangi Zen-sei dan bertanya, "Guru, saya tak mengerti mengapa orang seperti Anda mesti berpakaian apa adanya, amat sangat sederhana. Bukankah di masa seperti ini berpakaian sebaik-baiknya amat perlu, bukan hanya untuk penampilan melainkan juga untuk banyak tujuan lain?"

Sang Guru hanya tersenyum. Ia lalu melepaskan cincin dari salah satu jarinya dan berkata, "Sobat muda, akan kujawab pertanyaanmu, tetapi lebih dahulu lakukanlah satu hal untukku. Ambillah cincin ini dan bawalah ke pasar di seberang sana . Bisakah kamu menjualnya seharga satu keping emas?"

Melihat cincin Zen-sei yang kotor, pemuda tadi merasa ragu, "Satu keping emas? Saya tidak yakin cincin ini bisa dijual seharga itu." "Cobalah dulu, sobat muda. Siapa tahu kamu berhasil."

Pemuda itu pun bergegas ke pasar. Ia menawarkan cincin itu kepada pedagang kain, pedagang sayur, penjual daging dan ikan, serta kepada yang lainnya. Ternyata, tak seorang pun berani membeli seharga satu keping emas. Mereka menawarnya hanya satu keping perak. Tentu saja, pemuda itu tak berani menjualnya dengan harga satu keping perak. Ia kembali ke padepokan Zen-sei dan melapor, "Guru, tak seorang pun berani menawar lebih dari satu keping perak."

Zen-sei, sambil tetap tersenyum arif, berkata, "Sekarang pergilah kamu ke toko emas di belakang jalan ini. Coba perlihatkan kepada pemilik toko atau tukang emas di sana. Jangan buka harga, dengarkan saja bagaimana ia memberikan penilaian."

Pemuda itu pun pergi ke toko emas yang dimaksud. Ia kembali kepada Zen-sei dengan raut wajah yang lain dan berkata, "Guru, ternyata para pedagang di pasar tidak tahu nilai cincin ini sesungguhnya. Pedagang emas menawarnya dengan harga seribu keping emas. Rupanya nilai cincin ini seribu kali lebih
tinggi daripada yang ditawar oleh para pedagang di pasar."

Zen-s ei tersenyum simpul sambil berujar lirih, "Itulah jawaban atas pertanyaanmu tadi sobat muda. Seseorang tak bisa dinilai dari pakaiannya. Hanya "para pedagang sayur, ikan dan daging" di pasar yang menilai demikian. Namun tidak bagi "pedagang emas".

"Emas dan permata yang ada dalam diri seseorang, hanya bisa dilihat dan dinilai jika kita mampu melihat ke kedalaman jiwa. Diperlukan kearifan untuk melihatnya, dan itu membutuhkan proses. Kita tak bisa menilainya hanya dengan tutur kata dan sikap yang kita dengar dan lihat sekilas. Seringkali yang disangka emas ternyata loyang dan yang kita lihat sebagai loyang ternyata emas "

Your Personality based on Birth Month

JANUARY=SHYNESS

Fun to be with. Loves to try new things. Boy/girls LOVE you. You are very hott. Secretive. Difficult to fathom and to be understood. Quiet unless excited or tensed. Takes pride in oneself. Has reputation. Easily consoled. Honest. Concerned about people’s feelings. Tactful. Friendly. Approachable. Emotional temperamental and unpredictable. Moody and easily hurt. Witty and sparkly. spazzy at times.Not revengeful. Forgiving but never forgets. dislikes nonsensical and unnecessary things. Guides others physically and mentally. Sensitive and forms impressions carefully. Caring and loving. Treats others equally. Strong sense of sympathy. Wary and sharp. Judges people through observations. Hardworking. No difficulties in studying. Loves to be alone. Always broods about the past and the old friends. Waits for friends. Never looks for friends. Not aggressive unless provoked. Loves to be loved. Easily hurt but takes long to recover. Repost this in the next 5 mins and your reputation will boost someway in the next 12 days

FEBRUARY=SMARTS

Abstract thoughts. Loves reality and abstract. Intelligent and clever. Changing personality. Attractive. sexiest out of everyone.A real speed demon. Has more than one best friend. Temperamental. Quiet, shy and humble. Honest and loyal. Determined to reach goals. Loves freedom. Rebellious when restricted. Loves aggressiveness. Too sensitive and easily hurt. Gets angry really easily but does not show it. Dislikes unnecessary things. Loves making friends but rarely shows it. Daring and stubborn. Ambitious. Realizing dreams and hopes. Sharp. Loves entertainment and leisure. Romantic on the inside not outside. Superstitious and ludicrous. Spendthrift. Tries to learn to show emotions. Repost this in 5 mins and you will talk to someone new and realize that you are a perfect match.

MARCH=GORGEOUS

Drop dead gorgeous!!!Attracti ve personality. Very! sexy.Affectionate & Secretive. Naturally honest, generous and sympathetic. Chatterbox! Loves to talk alot! Loves to get their way! . Unbelievable kisser! Easily angered. Very stubborn in the most way possible! Loves to get noticed! Willing to take risks for others. Makes good choices. Has a great fashion sense! Maybe a little too popular with others * wink wink*. Outgoing and crazy at times! Intelligent. Can sometimes be a heartbreaker! Can love as much as possible! Hates insults. Loves compliments! A very big flirt ! Trustworthy. Appreciative and returns kindness. The best in bed out of MFE these months!! Hardly shows emotions. Tends to bottle up feelings. Observant and assesses others. If you repost this in the next 5 mins, you will meet your new love in 8 days.

APRIL=THUG

Stubborn and hard-hearted. Strong-willed and highly motivated. Sharp thoughts. Easily angered. Attracts others and loves attention. Deep feelings. Beautiful physically and mentally. Firm Standpoint. Needs no motivation. Shy towards opposite sex. Easily consoled. Systematic (left brain). Loves to dream. Strong clairvoyance. Understanding. Sickness usually in the ear and neck. Good imagination. Good physical. Weak breathing. Loves literature and the arts. Loves travelling. Dislike being at home. Restless. having many children. Hardworking. High spirited. If you repost this in the next 5 minutes, you will become close to someone you do not speak to much in the next 4 days.

MAY=SEXY

Suave and compromising. Funny and humorous. Stubborn. Very talkative. Calm and cool. Kind and sympathetic. Concerned and detailed. Loyal. Does work well with others. Very confident. Sensitive. Positive Attitude. Thinking generous. Good memory. Clever and knowledgeable. Loves to look for information. Able to cheer everyone up and/or make them laugh. Able to motivate oneself and others. Understanding. Fun to be around. Outgoing. Hyper. Bubbly personality. Secretive. Boy/girl crazy. Loves sports, music, leisure and travelling. Systematic. Hot but has brains. If you repost this in 5 mins, a cutie that’s caught your eye will introduce themselves and you will realize that you are very much alike in the next 2 days.

JUNE=Metal Head

Loves to chat. Loves those who love them. Loves to takes things at the center. Inner and physical beauty. Lies but doesn’t pretend. Gets angry often. Treats friends importantly. Brave and fearless. Always making friends. Not easily hurt but recovers easily. Daydreamer. Opinionated. Does not care to control emotions. Unpredictable. Understanding. Fun to be around. Outgoing. Hyper. Bubbly personality. Secretive. Boy/girl crazy. Loves sports, music, leisure and travelling. Systematic. Hot but has brains. If you repost this in 5 mins, a cutie that’s caught your eye will introduce themselves and you will realize that you are very much alike in the next 2 days.

JULY=ATTITUDE

Outgoing personality. takes risks. feeds on attention. no self control. kind hearted. self confident. loud and boisterous. VERY revengeful. easy to get along with and talk to. has an “every thing’s peachy” attitude. likes talking and singing. loves music. daydreamer. easily distracted. Hates not being trusted. BIG imagination. loves to be loved. hates studying. in need of “that someone”. longs for freedom. rebellious when withheld or restricted. lives by “no pain no gain” caring. always a suspect. playful. mysterious. “charming” or “beautiful” to everyone. stubborn. curious. independent. strong willed. a fighter. repost in 5 mins and you will meet the love of your life sometime next month.

AUGUST=FLIRT

You’ve got the best personality and are an absolute pleasure to be around. You love to make new friends and be outgoing. You are a great flirt and more than likely have a very attractive partner, a wicked hottie. Like somebody with an August brithday. It is also more than likely that you have a massive record collection. When it comes to films, you know how to pick them and may one day become a famous actor/actress yourself - heck, you’ve got the looks for it!!! IN the next 6 days you will meet someone that may possibly become one of your closest friends, if you repost this in 5 minutes.

SEPTEMBER=LOVER

Active and dynamic. Decisive and haste but tends to regret. Attractive and affectionate to oneself. Strong mentality. Loves attention. Diplomatic. Consoling, friendly and solves people’s problems. Brave and fearless. Adventurous. Loving and caring. Suave and generous. Usually you have many friends. Emotional. Stubborn. Hasty. Good memory. Moving, motivates oneself and others. Loves to travel and explore. Sometimes sexy in a way that only their lover can understand. if you do not repost this in the next 5 mins. someone very close to you will become mad at you in the next 8 days.

OCTOBER=HOTTIE

Trustworthy and loyal. Very passionate and dangerous. Wild at times. Knows how to have fun. Sexy and mysterious. Everyone is drawn towards your inner and outer beauty and independent personality. Playful, but secretive. Very emotional and temperamental sometimes. Meets new people easily and very social in a group. Fearless and independent. Can hold their own. Stands out in a crowd. Essentially very smart. Usually, you ever begin a relationship with someone from this month, hold on to them because their one of a kind. repost in 5 mins & you will excel in a major event coming up sometime this month.

NOVEMBER=SWEETY

This straight-up means ur the most good-looking Loyal and generous. Patriotic. Competitive in everything. Active in games and interactions. Impatient and hasty. Ambitious. Influential in organizations. Fun to be with. Easy to talk to, though hard to understand. Thinks far with vision, yet complicated to know. Easily influenced by kindness. Polite and soft-spoken. Having lots of ideas. Sensitive. Active mind. Hesitating, tends to delay. Choosy and always wants the best. repost this in 5 mins & you will find true love at 11:00 a.m.

DECEMBER=BEAUTY

Loves to chat. Loves those who love them. Loves to takes things at the centre. Great in bed. Inner and physical beauty. Doesn’t pretend. Gets angry often. A meaningful love life partner. Treats friends importantly. Brave and fearless. Always making friends. It is all about love and fairness. Easily hurt but recovers easily. Daydreamer. Horny but does fullfill. Opinionated. Does not care to control emotions. Knows what to do, to have fun. Unpredictable. Someone to have close to you. Extremely smart, but definitely the hottest AND sexiest of them all.

Fate; between God and Karma

Actually, I already wrote it in another blog, but I still want to write here as separate one.

First, I believe that there is actually there is Fate in this world. For a Buddhist, he/she would say that it is because of his/her own karma. For a Christian, he/she would say that it is because of God. Yeah, even though, Karma and God are really different in the concept. But, when we see the result or something that we would get, it would be almost the same.

In Buddha, we believe that everything that we get is because of our own karma; and it could be said as pre-defined. In Christian, we believe that everything comes from God; if God wants that to be happened, than it will happen and vice versa.

We can't really hope that something won't be happened if it should be happened; because the thing will happen whatever it takes.

Buddhists usually believe that they are the owner of their own karma; and they believe that they could change their karma. But, I believe that it's really hard (almost impossible; or even impossible) to change it. Whatever you will get, can't be changed. It would come around.

Christians believe in Jesus or God; that God will lead your way and open your path. God will provide your needs. Actually, I feel that it's almost the same as the result of karma itself.

We just could fight and try our best, but the result can't be determined by us. It is determined by some other power; a very powerful power that can't be described, can't be changed, is eternal through the time.

What we could do in our life is to adapt and accept whatever we get; but we still have to fight and do the best. The world is the way we think; if we think that the world is sad, bad or bitter; then, it applies to our life. But, if we see that the world is colourful, full of hope, happiness, and sweet, then it also applies to our life that the world is nice to us.

Be grateful, be cheerful, be thankful. Cheer up every moment of your life! And Time waits for no one.

My Way to Happiness

I would like to share few things that I usually do to keep the happiness in my heart, mind and body (face).

First, take time and say grace. It’s a simple thing to do. But, there is still few people ever done it. I also just know about this few weeks ago. I think I got this sign twice, in the 40 days of purpose lesson and a preaching in the church.

This very simple thing is really nice. And when I’m in low, I usually did it. Just say that you’re already grateful for something that you recently had. It’s not that hard, believe me.

When you just stay at home for whole day, you could say that you’re really grateful that no one annoying you that day. When you take a stroll at a park, you could say that you’re grateful that the weather is really nice. When you get someone’s attention, you could say that it’s nice to have such an attentive friend.

So, I believe that there’s always something that you could say thanks for in your daily life. Even, when someone done bad thing to you, you could say that you’re grateful that the impact is not that big.

Second, always have a hope in your heart and mind. Hope is something that keeps me alive. I have few hopes recently about my own life, my love life, my spiritual life and my study.

When you have hopes, you’ll be motivated to do everything more persevere. You’ll be on focus. You’ll do your best to achieve it. And it makes your life livelier.

But, you also must keep in you mind that hope is just hope. Whether it is fulfilled, it depends on a few things. It depends on how strong you fight. And the other point is whether it is ‘the destination’ that you should have.

So, beside your will and work, there is some other ‘power’ that also plays part to make it happen or not.

Third, look at others. We live in a very diverse world. Sometimes, we just think about ourselves. How screwed is my life. Don’t have any true friends. How bad my relationship is. How poor I am. How stupid I am. And so on.

But, could we see it from other’s view. You could stop and think. You could consider a lot of people out there. How many people much poorer than you are. How many people even can not read any letters. How many people even never feel the joy of love.

Yeah, it would come back to the first point. You must be more grateful about what you have. But, you also must have a hope in your life.

In the end, it’s just some ways that I do to make myself happy and also to make me more grateful about what I already had.

Life is Short

I'd like to discuss some sentences from a good passage that i've found before. I already post the passage here.

Life is too Short.
Do you believe that life is short? I don't know. This year, i'm already 25. And next year, i'll be 26. Time won't wait. There are some things in this world that you can't change, that's include time and your past. Everything in the past can't be turned back. You must live your own life in this moment. And not to cry over something in the past.

Life is really short. You don't know when you really take your last breath. You don't know when is the last beat of your heart. So, cherish your day. Keep motivating to do the best. Do good things to people. Smile cause it's the universal language. Open your vision and mind.

Grudges are a waste of perfect Happiness.
Yeah. It's really true. You can't have hate and happiness in the same time. And you get nothing from grudges. It will detoriatate your mind and your body. It won't bring any good.

I know that to really remove hatred from your heart, it's not an easy job. Even, when i said that i already forgive him/her for what she/he done to me in the past, but sometime, the thought still haunt my mind and my feeling. Yeah, i'm still struggling to erase everything. Remember, when you think or feel hatred/grudge/hate, you can't have happiness.

And remember, happiness brings you luck, health and prosperity.

Laugh when You Can.
Laugh is music to your soul. Actually, when you laugh, there are some kind of hormone that produced by your body. It could help you to fight the virus, bacteria, etc. inside your body. I also remember a place in Bali that help people to laugh often to make them healthier.

I know that it's a bit strange. But, do you remember when is the last time that you laugh hard? When is the last time you feel really happy? Do you think that you had bad feeling at the same time? It couldn't be. So, work hard, play hard and laugh often. Huhu...

And let Go of what You Can'T change.
Yeah. You must know when the time to let go something, especially if it's the right time and you know that the outcome can't be changed. I know that it's a bit hard, especially for a perfectionist person or a goal-oriented person.

But, i believe in a quote, "Actually, when a door is closed to you, there is (are) other door(s) that open to you. And sometimes, we stare to the closed door long enough that we don't realize that another door is opening for us." Huhu.. a bit messy. I read it before in Bahasa Indonesia and I try to translate it into English. Hope that you could still understand it.

Yeah. Sometimes, we regret about something that are really bad for ourselves. But, believe me, "Things happen for a reason". That's the way that you should think. It's not "Things happen because of a reason". Every single thing that happen in your life is something that you must encounter. And the result does not depend on that thing, but it depends on how we see or act to the thing. Yeah, it depends on how we see and act to the things.